本文为 2025 年 3 月 31 日发表于 Substack 的文章《觉察即自由(上)》的 Repost,现同步到 Quaily 归档。

1. 情绪

Emotions are your internal guidance system. There are only two emotions: the one that feels good and the one that feels bad. That good feeling, that positive emotion, is guidance saying, that what you are thinking right now is in alignment with what you are wanting; Every negative emotion means you are thinking in opposition to your own desire. Inner peace begins the moment you monitor your thoughts and choose not to allow anything outside of you to control your emotions. — Abraham Hicks

情绪不是问题,它是线索,是信号,是你内在世界的雷达。每一次情绪波动,指向的是我们此刻的思维是否和内在渴望一致。

正如 Abraham Hicks 所说:

情绪是你的内在导航系统。只有两种情绪:一种感觉好,一种感觉糟糕。好的情绪意味着你的想法正在与渴望对齐;坏的情绪,则是在抵抗你真正想要的东西。

我们常以为压力、烦恼来自工作、人际、冲突,但事实上,外在事件并没有能力“制造”压力,真正决定体验的是:我们对事件的看法与回应。

How we react depends on the world we seem to be reacting to. Who we become as well as what we see are both determined by perception, which can be said, simply, to create the perceptual, experiential world. Nothing “out there” causes your experience of life but rather what is “in here,” which is the energy field operating in your life. By taking responsibility for the consequences of your own perceptions, you can transcend the role of victim and come to an understanding that “nothing out there has power over you.” It is not life’s events but how you react to them and your attitude about them that determine whether the events have a positive or negative effect on your life, whether they are experienced as opportunity or as stress. Nothing has the power within itself to “create” stress. The loud music that raises the blood pressure of one person can be a source of delight to another. A divorce may be traumatic if it is unwanted, or a release into freedom if it is desired. Therefore, the only way to change your experience of life is to evolve your consciousness via alignment with high-energy attractor patterns. — David Hawkins, The Map of Consciousness Explained

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2. 思维

我们所有的情绪反应,其实都来自同一个源头:念头——我们头脑中一闪而过却反复运作的想法。

而念头背后,是我们早已设定好的“自动操作系统”——潜意识(Subconscious):

Subconscious → Paradigms → Limiting Beliefs → Thinking Habits → Projections

潜意识就像一台自动驾驶系统,储存着从小到大吸收的情绪反应、信念与经历。它通过思维定势(paradigms)来运作,决定你下意识地相信什么、看到什么、怎么反应。

这些 paradigms 就像看世界的滤镜,自动激活我们的 限制性信念(limiting beliefs)

  • 我不配拥有幸福
  • 我必须拼命,才值得被爱
  • 如果我说错话,别人就会否定我

这些信念逐渐变成 思维习惯(thinking habits),不断触发相似的情绪模式,并最终形成 投射(projections)

Projection shows up, Reality gone.
Trigger ≠ Truth.

你不是在回应现实,而是在回应你脑海里的旧故事。

正如杨定一所说:

念头是一种头脑的惯性。分析痛苦的经过,只是把苦的能量在脑海不断重复,造出更顽强的习气回路。与其不断投入苦的能量、强化痛苦的路径,不如透过感恩让心对自己慈爱柔软,建立新的爱的回路,融化受伤的心。

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3. 命运

Dr. Joe Dispenza 提到,重复的思维会导致重复的选择,重复的选择导致相同的行为,相同的行为则会带来相同的体验。而这些相同的体验,又会触发相同的情感,反过来加深相同的思维习惯。如此循环不息,形成了我们所谓的“命运”。

Thinking the same thoughts leads us to make the same choices. Making the same choices leads to demonstrating the same behaviors. Demonstrating the same behaviors leads us to create the same experiences. Creating the same experiences leads us to produce the same emotions. And those same emotions then drive the same thoughts. — Dr. Joe Dispenza

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4. 神经可塑性

神经可塑性(neuroplasticity) 指大脑的可塑性:大脑的结构和功能可以通过学习和经验改变。

当我们反复思考同一类念头、采取同样的行为、感受相同的情绪,就在大脑中加固一条“熟悉的神经路径”(Neural Pathway)。越走越深,越习惯,越自动化。这就是为什么我们总是被同一件小事触发,为什么我们觉得自己“控制不了情绪”。其实,是大脑在自动运行旧程序。

例如:

  • 你一贯的应对冲突方式,是沉默?
  • 面对压抑时,会忍、逃避、讨好?
  • 想被理解却不敢表达真实需求?

从 neuroplasticity 的角度看,大脑倾向于选择“省电模式”:凡是重复得够多的,就会被收录进“默认路径”(Default Mode Network)。这些反应不是你“决定”的,而是你被“编程”做的。

但正因为是“程序”,它就可以被改写。

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Instead of being defined by past experiences, choose to define yourself by your aspirations and future possibilities. — Dr. Joe Dispenza

方法很简单:停下来,觉察它,不跟随它。

  • 当你想逃避时,问自己:“我在逃避什么?”
  • 当你想讨好时,提醒自己:“我值得被爱,不需要交换。”
  • 当你陷入内疚、羞耻或自责时,深呼吸,观察,而不评判。

每一次“停下来”,就是在大脑中新建一条通路。每一次中断旧反应,都是在改写程序。

而这,就是自由的开始。


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